Sibling Spotlight

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1. There are lots of healthy ways to let out strong emotions.  Try:
  • Dancing
  • Saying out loud and proud, “I am awesome!”
  • Sing while listening to loud music
  • Scream into or punch a big soft pillow
  • Run in place as fast as you can

2. There are always new things to learn.  Remember that it is okay to ask questions.  Asking questions and getting answers from people you trust (like parents, doctors, nurses, or a favorite aunt) can help reduce worries.

3. Come up with a signal with mom and dad so they know when you need a break or you are going to EXPLODE!

4. When it’s possible, have dinner with your family.

5. Celebrate good moments.  When you are feeling sad, mad or scared, just think about something you like to do or fun times you have had.

6. Tell your school.  It helps if a teacher knows why you are feeling “grouchy” some days.

7. Remember that you are thought about each day and that there are other siblings going through some of the same things you are.  You are not alone.

8. Write your sibling a letter sharing how you feel about him/her and about the illness.

9. Show love and offer to help out your sibling if he/she needs it.  You probably know your sibling better than anyone.  It is okay to ask your sibling how he/she is feeling.  It is okay to make him/her laugh, and it is still okay to play games with him/her.  If you or your sibling is feeling down in the dumps, don’t be afraid to show those feelings and to show you care and understand.  Don’t be ashamed to cry.  Everyone cries and it helps the body to release tension and to feel better.  Our Friends of Karen sibs think it’s very brave to cry.

10.  Remind others that it is important for you to hear how great you are.  You are a very important part of your family and you always will be.  No matter what!

SIBLING STORIES

The unbreakable bond of sisters

When Christa was being treated for Leukemia, she and her beloved sister Skyla participated in Friends of Karen’s Sibling Support Program. Her mother Georgette, thinking it was a stomach bug, brought Christa to see the doctor. He told mom that Christa’s blood count was low. In 2021 five-year-old Christa began to complain of frequent stomach aches. Her mother Georgette, thinking

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Beautiful Bella and Linda – Making Spirits Bright

Children (and their families) battling serious illnesses like cancer are often described as “warriors’ ‘ and “fighters” conjuring up images of slaying dragons and knockouts in a boxing ring. Though these are certainly powerful and appropriate metaphors for the big, bold and resilient people we meet at Friends of Karen, equally inspiring are those who radiate a quiet beauty- selfless

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Sibling Grief Month

“The loss of a brother or sister is not small, unimportant or invisible.  In fact, it’s quite the opposite.  I call sibling loss the ‘loss of a lifetime,’ because who else do we expect to have relationships with that stretch our entire lives?” – Lynn Shattuck Worldwide Bereaved Siblings Month is an annual designation observed in November. The death of

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Meet Cameron and Brinley

Brinley, age 9 and her sister Cameron, age 6, met with Friends of Karen Creative Arts Therapist Jane and created  “I am” posters. The “I am” posters helped to discuss who they are and if the cancer diagnosed changed any of these things. They agree they are still themselves despite all the changes happening in their lives and but sometimes

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